Saturday, August 21, 2010


*This post is an update in a series of posts on my friend Amber, who is currently in the hospital. You can read the earlier posts here.

**Also, the family has set up a blog to keep friends and family abreast of what's going on and also to help reduce the feeling of obligation to update everyone individually. Most of the posts will be duplicates of my posts on this blog, since the family has asked me to update the blog for them.


I'm feeling a little emotional today.

I miss Amber.

We planned to get together last night. Just three days before she went into the coma, we set a date to get together for dinner, chatting, a haircut, and catch-up. We originally planned it for Saturday morning, but I felt bad about her sleepless nights up with Kayla and her broken arm. I didn't want to add a burden that Saturday, and I was leaving town that day for vacation, and we didn't want our time together to feel rushed. We had a lot to catch up on. So we set up a date for a Thursday evening, two weeks from then. Yesterday.

That day we talked about hair, about Kayla and how having Kayla break her arm was a lot harder than Amber ever imagined but that she was "surviving," as she put it. We talked about the beautiful clouds the previous Sunday evening. I told her they made me think of her. She then sent me a video she'd taken of the beautiful cloud-filled sunset that Sunday night. I smiled. I loved that you took a video of the clouds, I told her. "I savored every second," she replied.

When she first went into the coma, I had ideas that by that Thursday, she'd be back with us, that we'd get to keep our date. I knew it would probably be in the hospital, but I thought I'd be able to talk to her by then, for sure.

I didn't get my wish last night. She's still sleeping. And I miss her. I have faith, with all my heart, that Heavenly Father will make her whole. But in the mean time, I miss her. I pray every day that she will be strong enough to take charge of her body again. I pray that Heavenly Father will grant the miracle that we all are praying so diligently for. Amber taught me that diligent prayer and faith can bring about miracles that Heavenly Father may not have initially intended, but is willing to grant if we ask for them.

"The object of prayer is not to change the will of God, but to secure for ourselves and for others blessings that God is already willing to grant, but that are made conditional on our asking for them. Blessings require some work or effort on our part before we can obtain them. Prayer is a form of work, and is an appointed means for obtaining the highest of all blessings." (Bible Dictionary-Prayer)

I believe that God is willing to grant this blessing, this miracle of healing for Amber. He has already granted so many blessings, but this blessing of full-healing for Amber is what I am praying daily, almost constantly for. I have faith that she will pull through. I recognize it won't be easy, but she is strong and so is JP. Together they will fight this. And we will help them.

Tonight, I am once again soliciting your most earnest, heartfelt, miracle-inducing prayers on her behalf. I know God hears our prayers, thoughts of love and concern, and positive energy sent out into the world. I know if we pray together for this miracle of healing, that he will hear those prayers multiplying exponentially. He is a God of miracles and if it is His will, He will allow us to see firsthand a manifestation of spiritual power.

I miss you, Amber. Talk to you soon!

(Expect A Miracle and Pray For One, Too)


Brooke said...

i sure do love you! Thank you for all the updates and for being there. I also, never expected it to go n this long. I think of her and pray for her everyday. Myliu!

Marian said...

Thank you so much for keeping us updated on Amber's status. We have been praying for her, JP, and the kids ever since you first let us know what happened. I have so many fond memories of us all together in Lithuania. It's too bad that it takes something like this to remind me of those things. Amber is so lucky to have you as her friend! Lots of love and prayers from San Antonio! -the former Sesuo Ostler

Jen said...

Dear Emery, Last Thursday I heard a text come in on my phone and I thought, "oh, no, I never confirmed with Amber if we where going to the Blue Lemon tonight. It's probably her." I'm terrible at making plans with people because it seems I'm in a constant rush of caos. But we'd picked that Thursday evening a few weeks ago as a tenative time to get together. It was a text telling me that she was in a coma. What? That was the craziest, scariest news I could never have possibly imagined getting. These things just don't happen and they shouldn't happen to someone like her and her sweet family. But when these things happen we learn and our faith grows and we are streached and there are moments that are too hard and endurance is difficult. My Sharing Time lesson tomorrow is that "Miracles come to those who have faith". A tiny miracle for me.. that this message was put in the outline on the week I would be teaching and would need this message in my life. I just can't wait to hear when this miracle will come though.

Dana Tischer said...

Thursday evening, we went to the temple. There were so many people there (two marriages, two missionaries) they couldn't fit everyone in the normal session. For those of us who missed it, they scheduled a special, in-between session. This meant we had to wait about 10 minutes before we could get in to the veil room, so the officiator invited us to spend the time meditating. It was so peaceful & quiet - I spent the time praying for Amber and her total restoration of her faculties and return to her husband & children. I've learned that we can and should be very specific in our prayers, but always "Thy Will Be Done." When we bow to His will, amazing things happen!!